So I took this personality test for kicks and giggles. And after five to ten minutes of answering questions, I got to see where I rated on five basic areas: Openness to Experience/Intellect; Conscientiousness; Extraversion; Agreeableness, and Neuroticism.
Everything lined up pretty much how I figured it would, except for in one area. Here’s how my score broke down.
|Openness to Experience/Intellect|
|High scorers tend to be original, creative, curious, complex; Low scorers tend to be conventional, down to earth, narrow interests, uncreative.|
|You enjoy having novel experiences and seeing things in new ways.||My score: 90|
|High scorers tend to be reliable, well-organized, self-disciplined, careful; Low scorers tend to be disorganized, undependable, negligent.|
|You probably have a messy desk!||My score: 8|
|High scorers tend to be sociable, friendly, fun loving, talkative; Low scorers tend to be introverted, reserved, inhibited, quiet.|
|You are neither particularly social or reserved.||My score: 59|
|High scorers tend to be good natured, sympathetic, forgiving, courteous; Low scorers tend to be critical, rude, harsh, callous.|
|You tend to consider the feelings of others.||My score: 74|
|High scorers tend to be nervous, high-strung, insecure, worrying; Low scorers tend to be calm, relaxed, secure, hardy.|
|You probably remain calm, even in tense situations.||My score: 3|
Like I said, everything lined up with my expectations except for one area.
For all the times that I’ve taken tests like these, I am always quite extroverted. This is the first time where I’ve been close to the middle of the road.
In high school, I relished in any situation where the attention was on me. I was in plays and musicals as lead characters (or scene-stealing support characters). I arrived at college with people already wearing “I love Josh Mosey” t-shirts (full story here). I took my campus ministry by storm and left an impression (I can’t always say a good one) on everyone I met. I was extroverted to the point of being obnoxious.
I am no longer that guy. Buy why?
I think I owe part of becoming more tame to my wife, though I would not say that she changed me. I married a woman who is all the way on the other end of the extraversion spectrum. And early in our dating life, I learned quickly that if I did something potentially embarrassing, she would be embarrassed for me (even if I wasn’t). I think I have a better handle on what things will embarrass her and what things won’t now, and if I don’t have a good reason to do something embarrassing (I still consider getting a good laugh a good reason, by the way) I won’t do it.
I think another part of my shift toward the shy side is my writing. In writing, I am forced to spend more time alone, observing humanity so as to write believable characters and a good first step toward being able to do that is by stepping out of the limelight. I can see things more clearly when I don’t have a spotlight in my eyes.
And the last part is that life has a way of moderating us over time. Some people call this “maturing.” In my life thus far, I’ve had to deal with things that I never thought possible. My folks got divorced. My wife and I lost a child. And on and on. The rough edges are being worn down and teaching me that I shouldn’t be the focus of every situation.
It was an insightful personality test. If you want to take it, go here: http://www.outofservice.com/bigfive/